She probably had a long list of projects she planned to do during maternity leave. But now he realises that he has forgotten one thing: it is not a holiday. Instead, it’s a time to heal, to get to know your new baby and learn to be a mother. So forget everything except these three things.
The healing part is very important. Your body has undergone a massive change in the last nine months; don’t expect to return to normal for a while. Although our society considers women to be “cured” at six weeks – when many women are given the green light to return to sex and work – it actually takes about nine months to return to normal. That’s why we recommend peace of mind and give you some advice.
Tips for healing after childbirth
Sleep when the baby sleeps. You’ll probably never be as tired as you were during the first few months of motherhood. Forget about “doing things” while the baby sleeps. As soon as you start snoring, you need to lie down as well. Gradually, as you regain your strength, you will be able to stay awake longer.
Do chores with the baby. Babies love to see her. They don’t think ironing clothes, cooking, or shopping is boring, especially if you talk to them while doing these tasks.
Get out of the house every day. Even if it’s just for a walk around the block. The sun and fresh air will be of great benefit to you.
Accepting that take-away or frozen food may be a temporary solution. Now is not the time to become a gourmet cook. If your partner can’t take over the kitchen during the week, you can choose to make large amounts of food such as pasta sauce, chicken stews, lasagna, etc., and freeze them during the week.
Lower the bar. Your house doesn’t have to be impeccable. If you can afford it, hire a cleaning service, or ask friends and family for help. If not, just focus on tidying up, you can make your bed in the morning and at least one room will look clean.
Be careful with your perineal area. If you broke during labor or had an episiotomy, sitting in a bucket with a little water several times a day not only keeps the area clean, but can also relieve pain. You can reduce swelling with ice packs.
Eat well. If you can follow the same healthy diet you followed during pregnancy and abstain from alcohol if you are breastfeeding.
Watch for symptoms. If you suddenly start bleeding a lot again, if you are developing a chest infection, or if you feel pain in the pelvic region, call your doctor.
Baby blues aren’t a myth. After the vertigo of birth disappears, and the complete reality of motherhood with few hours of sleep appears (helped by falling hormone levels), you may feel tender, watery, and depressed. This is completely normal and usually disappears within about 10 days. If those feelings persist, however, or become more intense, you may have an illness called postpartum depression. Other symptoms include:
- • Feeling restless, irritable, or anxious.
- • Loss of interest or pleasure in life.
- • Loss of appetite.
- • Less energy and motivation (not related to lack of sleep).
- • trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, or waking up too early in the morning.
- • Feeling hopeless and hopeless or guilty.
- • Feeling that life isn’t worth living.
- • Showing little interest in the baby.
- • Unexplained weight loss or gain.
If you have several of these symptoms for more than a week or two, call your health care provider for an appointment. Support, therapy, and, if necessary, medication can help you feel better. Postpartum depression is not a normal phase. Please get help if you need it.